Do yourself a favour when you’re at your local shops next buy yourself a coffee, sit down and watch people. Especially kids. I found myself at my local shops the other day and it was after school and there are about 20 kids running around, laughing and generally having a ball. Such energy.
As I watched them I was reminded how carefree and easy going kids can be. They don’t worry about the day-to-day stressors of their lives and even if they do, they move from one emotion to another effortlessly and within seconds. One minute they’re talking to a parent, the next they’re running here and there and then, within seconds, they’re playing with a friend.
You were like this once, so was I. Remember?
Where did our child-like sense of fun, innocence and spontaneity go? It’s this energy you need to to tap into every day.
The thing these children have is passion.
NOT, the stress of OUR daily grind, OUR work, the family, colleagues and friends.
Kids grow and become more and more influenced by their parents and peers. Their world starts to close in and they unintentionally learn to put up emotional barriers to ward off the negative stressors that are bombarding them every day.
The solution is complex.
It can be broken down easily, may require help. It’s a case of believing you can bring this playfulness into your life, and taking the action to do it.
That wonderful carefree life of passionate laughter and fun dissipates. Sad. Although, this is okay, we have to grow and we have to get sensible and we have to learn about what the world has to offer. We can’t expect to be protected for ever and we have to live with boundaries.
It’s those boundaries that cause me to go “EEEK” because they steal our passion.
Objections >>> YES, loud and clear. “You don’t know what it’s like”, “I don’t have time to go and play, I have things to do and they’re important”, “Those barriers I put in place protect me”.
You’re happy the way you are. GREAT. That’s so cool.
But what if you’re not happy, what if you’re in pain and are afraid to admit it, what if you’re feeling you’re locked into something in your life and you don’t know how to escape?
I see and help you every day, it’s why you come to see me; we want that special pill, that thing that starts with intuitively reinventing something within.
To learn how to play and have fun comes at a COST.
Oh, the teens. Remember when you were in your teens; it was easy to get passionate then. The boyfriend (or girlfriend), the car, the holiday, school (maybe not), the environment, helping people, sport-footy, watching Carlton win!
The passion. Where is it? Who stole it?
You did it, it happened to me too.
Those boundaries just now…
My wonderful friend and client Massie, here in Canberra, had boundaries, she’s shattered hers into shards of glass. Amazing to see and she didn’t do it alone. She says I did it. No, she did it.
Okay school’s in. Boundaries are linked to rules. We all live our lives by our rules. Rules are where our day-to-day conflicts come from. I have a rule that a bit of a mess in the kitchen is okay, you like spotless. I leave a mess, you get angry. Bingo, we have conflict and then divorce. Pesky little varmits, those boundaries.
There is so much more to this story.
Stop. Go back and think about what happened to those childhood and teenage passions.
And the kids at the shops? They’ll be there this afternoon. Passion for life, enjoyment for just being. They don’t think about it, it’s just there, naturally.
How awesome is that!
Have an awesome day,